If you already know what negative thinking is and why you want to stop thinking negatively, the next step is to learn how to eliminate negative thinking in a way that makes it easy for you to get rid of negative thoughts and not deal with them again.
For example, let’s say you want to stop thinking the negative thought ‘I’m such a loser’, and you want to never think this negative thought again, even if the rest of the world is telling you what a loser you are, that you will never amount to anything, and so on.
In other words, not only do you want to know how to overcome negative thoughts, but you also want to know how to avoid negative thoughts in the future, even if other mean-spirited people want you to think negatively.
How do you do this?
Right now, you’re about to learn step by step how to do this, and how to get rid of unwanted thoughts and not deal with them again, no matter what the circumstances.
How to get rid of negative thoughts & not deal with them anymore: 6 steps
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This gives you a sense of purpose, and helps you decide what types of negative thoughts to eliminate.
Remember, negative thinking is a useless way of thinking that doesn’t take you in a positive direction that you want to go in.
This raises the question: what positive direction do you want to go in?
Answering this question is the first and most important step for getting rid of negative thinking, since it helps you identify specific negative thoughts that you want to reduce, eliminate, and prevent from occurring again.
For example, let’s say you decide that you want to a happier, more confident person. If that’s the case, then you clearly already know that you want to eliminate negative thoughts that make you feel bad or that make you less confident.
Or, let’s say that you want to quit smoking.
In that case, you want to replace negative thoughts that make it more challenging for you to become a non-smoker with thoughts that make it easier to stop smoking.
Bottom line, the more specific you are about what positive thing you want to achieve, the better off you are, because this helps you determine which negative thoughts are working against you and making it more challenging for you to get there.
- If you want to be happier, target negative thoughts that make you feel bad
- If you want to have higher self esteem, target negative thoughts that make you have lower self esteem
- If you want to overcome lack of self confidence and be more confident, target negative thoughts make you doubt yourself and that make you less confident
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- If you want to have achieve a goal, target negative thoughts that make it more challenging for you to achieve that goal
- For example, if you want to eliminate social anxiety when meeting new people, target negative thoughts that make you feel nervous or uncomfortable when you meet someone new
- The basic idea is always the same: whatever positive thing you want to achieve, target negative thoughts that make it more challenging for you to get there
This helps you focus on getting rid of negative thinking that is relevant to you.
For example, if you want to have higher self esteem, you can identify the negative thought ‘I’m such a loser’ as being a thought that prevents you from getting there by making you have much lower self esteem.
But what if you want to overcome a fear of public speaking? What types of negative thoughts do you think contribute to this fear, and are therefore important to eliminate?
If you think about it, you’ll likely start identifying thoughts like, ‘I’m a terrible public speaker’, or ‘I can’t be calm speaking in front of others’, and so on.
So, in this scenario, these are the types of negative thoughts you will want to focus on eliminating.
Some additonal things to appreciate:
- By identifying negative thoughts that work against you and make it more challenging for you achieve something you want, these thoughts are relevant to you and definitely worth eliminating
- By wanting to get rid of these negative thoughts, you are naturally more motivated and energized to do something about eliminating them, which already helps you to start letting go of them
- Once you eliminate these negative thoughts, your life immediately improves in every way (much like your life immediately improves in every way the moment a headache goes away)
This is how to eliminate any motivation to think negatively, which helps you let go of the negative thought and not deal with it anymore.
Already, you know that if a negative thought makes you feel bad, or that it’s making it more challenging for you to achieve something, then it’s not helping you in any way and is working against you.
But you can dig deeper into the effects of the negative thought, and this makes it easier to stop thinking negatively and eliminate any negative automatic thoughts.
After all, the more you understand how the negative thought is useless, doesn’t help you in any way, and even works against you, the easier it is for you to let go of the negative thought and not think it again, no matter what the circumstances.
This is because the less value you see in the thought, the less your mind is energized and motivated to think the negative thought.
Once your mind sees no value at all in the negative thought, then it has no motivation at all to think it. This is when your mind naturally doesn’t think the thought at all.
So this is how to eliminate negative thoughts and never deal with them again.
- For example, if you want to have higher self esteem, you can appreciate that the negative thought ‘I’m such a loser’ is useless and of no value to you, since it makes you have lower self esteem
- But what about digging deeper into the effects of this negative thought, so that it’s even easier to stop thinking this way?
- For example, you can see how you have less confidence in yourself, your abilities, and what you’re capable of achieving, when you think ‘I’m such a loser’
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- This lower level of self confidence translates into less success in life
- You also experience less happiness and enjoyment when you think this way
- The more you see and recognize these types of effects, and recognize why the negative thought is worthless in every way, the easier it is for you to let go of the negative thought and not think it again, no matter what
This understanding makes it easy for your mind to let go of the negative thought and reject it, even if the negative thought is true or valid.
Often, when you reconsider one of your negative thoughts, you’ll see it is false, invalid, or completely nonsensical, which is a great thing to appreciate.
Here’s why: once your mind sees that a negative thought isn’t even true or valid, your mind naturally and automatically rejects the negative thought, so it’s easy to let go of it and stop dealing with it.
But even when a negative thought can be considered ‘true’ or ‘valid’, it still doesn’t make sense to think in a useless negative way that harms you, when you could be thinking in a useful, true, valid positive way instead.
For example, let’s say you struggle with overcoming negative self talk, and you repeatedly tell yourself things like ‘I’m a loser’.
Once you see that it doesn’t make any sense to think this way, no matter what, you naturally stop telling yourself things like this. So this is how to stop negative self talk the easy way.
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